AN IMPRESSIVE PROPOSAL? (Part 2)

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(Continued from part 1)

Some other factors to consider (for the conventional proposal) are the place and time to propose. Ensure to choose a PLACE where the two of you can be comfortable and free to discuss at length; not a place where familiar people will be passing by frequently, because ladies are sometimes shy at such moment.

Also, choose a TIME that you are really free; a time when your attention won't be needed for another important thing. You can't afford to choose a time that is like ten minutes to another of your or her appointment. What if she asks several questions that require loads of explanation? It's not a day to rush her up because you want to attend to something else; that would be TOO WRONG of you. One of the pastors in my church once narrated that the day he proposed to his wife, they ended up spending two hours discussing!

Another factor is your DRESSING and ODOUR (both mouth and body). Hmm, these are very very crucial! Please dress presentably, it shows how much importance you placed on her and on what you are about to do. Also, if you have been in a meeting for a long while with your mouth closed and you have to propose to her after the meeting, ensure to use a mouth spray or a candy/gum that has mint; they will help to freshen your breath.

Moreover, you don't need a fortune to get a body spray/perfume. Smell nice, it says a lot about who you are. I once heard of a sister who refused to give her response to a brother's proposal after a long while. So, the leadership of the church decided to probe the matter, and she stated that the brother was smelling when he came to propose. Hmm, he probably proposed to her immediately after closing from work. From this occurrence, it is obvious that having a good job is not enough to impress a sister because I learnt the brother is a medical doctor.

While in school, I'm sure you didn't make a seminar/project presentation without preparing very well for it in order to impress/convince your lecturers. Your marriage proposal is no difference because it's a time you're introducing yourself to who you want to walk the road of life and destiny with. Rehearse all you want to say and organise them coherently. As much as the Holyspirit might have simplified things for you by informing her about you beforehand, you still need to present your 'manifesto' impressively.

I hope you've learnt one or few things from this piece. May God in His infinite mercy help you to get it RIGHT in marriage in Jesus name (Amen).

Shalom.

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