COURTSHIP; TO KISS OR NOT TO?.....let's reason together (Part 1)

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Sometimes when I visit Facebook, I see people post questions about whether it's right for Christians to kiss during courtship or not. Well, some may say once it isn't boldly written in the Bible, then it is not wrong, but I want us to look at this matter closely... 

Actually, I'll start by asking: 'What do you want to do with another person's body fluid (i.e saliva) when you aren't married to him yet? Doesn't it seem disgusting to you?' That you're courting doesn't mean you're ONE with him already. I do understand that at heightened emotion, you might not see it that way but if you keep this slogan at the back of your mind:

"I'M NOT MARRIED TO HIM UNTIL WE ARE MARRIED",

it will probably help you to put things in the right perspective, and prevent you from crossing the line; no matter what your emotion says!

Moreover, it's no news that a courtship did not lead to marriage. So, may I ask: If you have to break that courtship for one reason or the other, how will you feel when you see him afterwards? Won't you feel ashamed to relate with him? Are you sure you won't feel that you've soiled your dignity and respect before him by engaging in that? Can you still stand tall before him like a lady should? How will you feel when such memories play back in your mind? Kindly ruminate on these!

In addition, can you kiss a man without his hands wandering about on your body? So, what else have you not done if he has 'browsed' and visited almost all the 'websites' on your body with his hands; without taking you to the altar? The truth of the matter is KISSING DURING COURTSHIP IS NOT RIGHT! A lot of Christians thought they could stop at mere kissing but have themselves to blame today, and the question is: Why arouse yourself when you know you aren't ready to go all the way? How can you set fire in your bosom and expect not to be burnt?

To be continued......

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